Dealing With Racism: Understanding Why And A Solution

If you're a minority, dealing with racism isn't something new. Third year political science major, Alexandra Wallace made an offensive video rant against Asians. She's now leaving UCLA, which has a 37% Asian population. Smart, because she'd probably get seriously hurt, or harassed for the rest of her time there if she stayed.

My main question is, how could someone from a good school like UCLA post a public, racist rant on a forum which could attract millions of viewers as a political science major??? 

Aren't poli-sci majors supposed to be super careful about their persona if they ever want to get elected into public office?  Maybe not. Look at all the politicians in office we have now.

Dealing With Racism – Why Are There Racists?

* Lack of education. This has to be the #1 reason why people are racist.  If you only speak one language well, have never lived overseas, have never traveled overseas, and live in a very homogeneous environment, you don't have the education or perspective to understand different cultures.  60%+ of Americans don't have a passport, and we Americans are cursed with the fact that English is the main international language.  As a result, we don't try as hard to understand other cultures because we don't have to.

* We blame others for our problems. Alexandra is stressing due to finals and is taking out her anger and frustration on someone else.  We like to blame others for us not being able to get into college, get the job, get a promotion, or find love.  It's easier that way.  Instead, we should STFU and try harder and focus on how we can improve ourselves.

* We have low self-esteem. The Girls Gone Wild producers are already calling Alexandra Wallace to see if she will audition, no joke.  Can you see why?  With the way Alexandra is seeking attention with her video and her entire ensemble, it's not hard to believe she has very low self-esteem.

* We are inherently evil. Perhaps we are just born this way, and can't help ourselves. It goes back to the nature vs. nurture question. I'm of the belief “nature” is but a 30% minority to why we are who we are today. Our parents and our environment is what really shapes us to be who we are. I don't believe we are inherently evil and blaming our genes for being out of shape, not smart, racist is just a poor bullshit excuse.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU HAVE RACIAL TENDENCIES?

The first thing to do is to become introspective as to why you are a racist.  Ask yourself whether you lack the understanding, self-confidence, and general education.  If so, get busy because your racist tendencies will prevent you from getting anywhere.

Alexandra Wallace will NEVER have a career because her name will always be associated with her racial rant which any employer will find offensive. Do you think any Asian person who knows about Alexandra Wallace will ever want to hire her or give her a chance? Unlikely.

If Alexandra decides to start a business, do you think an Asian person will buy any of her products except for the Girls Gone Wild videos? Unlikely. In essence, Alexandra has a large uphill battle, and potentially 2.5 billion enemies in the world.

If you are a racist, watch Dr. Martin Luther King's full video and start contemplating before it's too late.

After you're done watching, really consider learning a second language well.  By learning a second language, you not only learn how to communicate with new people, you also learn so much about that language's culture. 

From learning honorific verb forms, to the origins of how characters are drawn, Japanese and Chinese are amazingly powerful languages that helps you from becoming a racist. 

The languages are based on a concept called “filial piety”, where respect for one's elders is tantamount.  Once you adopt filial piety, you will start not only respecting your elders, but also people from other cultures as well.

FREEDOM OF SPEECH IS FREE, BUT…..

We all have a right to say whatever we want in America.  It's our 1st amendment right.  However, we should all be aware that our words have consequences that we must live by, forever.  It really is too bad Alexandra Wallace is racist, because she's brought so much hardship and shame on herself and her family.

Perhaps someday, Alexandra will realize it's probably better to keep her thoughts private, and be more understanding of other people.  I am very dismayed we consistently have so much hate in our community. We all have pet peeves, idiosyncrasies that may annoy others, and so forth.  But, for goodness sake, keep your evil to yourself and perhaps do some good!

Dealing with racism is such an annoying and painful experience. I wish everyone got a chance at dealing with racism to make racism go away.

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Readers, why do you think people are racists?  Have you ever encountered racism growing up or in the workplace?  What did you do to address the issue?  Should Alexandra be forgiven?  Will she ever get a respectable job?

Alexandra's video is no longer available, but here is a good spirited retort.

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Billy
Billy
12 years ago

I think racism is learned. I am a man of mixed heritage and I have encountered racism from people of many different races. I have also learned racism from my parents. The emotional wounds of learning this sick thinking has affected my life greatly. Especially on days when I am not feeling very secure or comfortable in my own “skin” I find that people who are generally racist are people who as mentioned in your opinion piece are un-educated, insecure or are just blaming others for their own unhappiness which makes me sad because they may be unaware of how they are affecting others around them. I know this Korean guy at the corner store that I frequent who I have felt treats me differently because of the ways he talks about people with darker skin. On a good day I just nod and move on, on a not so good day I tend to take it personal. By him acting like a racist I do not trust him. He’s hot n cold. But I understand this sick behaviour because I have those sick messages in my head as well. It really is sad. However I work hard on changing my inner self-talk and learning to practice the principles I hold true such as tolerance, patience, acceptance, compassion and so on. Not easy to do cause I am human and bound to fail sometimes. But I keep working at it. Hopefully this shop keeper can learn to be more aware of his self-talk and learn to change it. It would help! =)

Nico
Nico
12 years ago

@Kevin @ Thousandaire.com
Yeah because our society has such a disgusting, discrimatory history against jocks and a video expressing jock-hate would be such a disheartening reminder to all jocks in this nation that they are still being discriminated against in the most distasteful way. Aquire some common sense please. Mocking Jock-speak is NOT on the same caliber as “CHING CHONG LING LONG TING TONG”. Also, being an Asian (whether you like it or not) defines the very realities of your life in America. And you of course don’t have a choice in the matter. Can you with a bold face claim the same for jocks to even he slightest degree?

Nico
Nico
12 years ago

@Mike Hunt
This is relevant to Asian-Americans because….?

Nico
Nico
12 years ago

Just because you ignore racism it doesn’t make it non-existent. The people who make claims like yours belong to the priveleged majority in this country who almost are never made to feel conscious about their race. Bluntly speaking, white people. You have no experience what it’s like to be a non-white in this country. Our society is still racist and you have racist tendencies just like everyone else believe it or not.

Nico
Nico
12 years ago

@Dan B
Racism in Asia is wrong and racism in America is also definitely wrong. What is the point of this comment? Just because YOU didn’t find this video offensive it doesn’t mean the rest of the Asian-American community is overreacting. Why the heck are you even holding Americans tithe same standards as Asians? Racism from Hong Kong and America are derived from totally different historical and cultural roots.

Financial Independence
Financial Independence
13 years ago

I think it is purely cultural differences. There clash between west and east.

West is atomized society of individuals, while Asians are still fairly interconnected and go like a herd together.

You can treat it with education, but clearly there are differences between the societies.

The differences will stay and get worse over the period of time. This is one of the set backs of globalization. It will take a few hundred years to overcome.

Kris
13 years ago

I’m asian-american and I put soy sauce on my rice. Umm, am I not supposed to? @Jack

Jack
Jack
13 years ago

Interesting post. However, I can’t agree completely with it. I’m an Asian-American who grew up and went to college in the Pacific Northwest, and I know that Asian-Americans have their gripes against white people. For you Asian-Americans out there pointing your finger at Ms. Wallace, how many times have you joked or made fun of white people or heard your Asian-American friends do the same using the following comments: “White people are dirty because they don’t take their shoes when in the house”; “White folks have no cultural manners; they always put soy sauce on their rice and sugar in their tea”; “White people have no respect for elders, they just put them in a nursing home”; “White people don’t love their kids, they kick them out of the house at 18”

Before anyone (especially Asian-Americans) starts jumping on the Alexandra-Wallace-is-a-racist bandwagon, we should take an “introspective” look into ourselves when we talk about other people, especially when the webcam is off.

AmericanDebt Project
13 years ago

Agreed. When I was in college, someone discovered a personal homepage for a freshman girl that had a lot of scandalous photos of her. This was in 2003, pre-facebook days so the whole school was blowing up about it. She ended up transferring out the next term. I think the main point about this Wallace chick is she was stupid enough to post something without thinking about the consequences. We all do it sometimes, and some actions have much worse outcomes than others. For example, I wanted to have an anonymous blog so I wouldn’t have to censor myself, but even with being anonymous I don’t say EVERYTHING that crosses my mind. I would have no readers and just be a big hater. There is a balance in life we have to achieve between speaking our mind and being totally insensitive/careless.

First Gen American
13 years ago

I do think all forms of discrimination still exist. I grew up with an extremely racist, sexist, insert anything-ist dad. He seemed to have an issue with everybody..different religions, races, sexes, etc. I’m sorry to say that some of his ignorant beliefs rubbed off on me and it wasn’t until he was gone for a few years that I learned how wrong he was. Thank goodness he was out of the picture and that I had some brave people tell me that some of the things I was saying were inappropriate. (I literally didn’t even realize I was doing it. Those high school jobs were such a godsend. I learned so much.)

My dad’s issue which is not on the list: Entitlement. He felt entitled to a better life than other people because he felt he came from a higher class of people than folks from other countries. He even felt that way about my mom…that he married beneath his level. Self Esteem may be there too. He was the black sheep loser of his family so he needed to put himself on a pedestal above the people around him.

Such an important topic and I think the best solution is to just be constantly mindful of our actions and do our best to understand other cultures as well as embrace the benefits diversity can bring to our workforce and our community. Also if you hear people saying something dumb speak up. They may not even realize what an idiot they are, especially if they are young.

Chubbuni13
Chubbuni13
13 years ago

Interesting points… personally, I think that all people are inherently racist. There’s been a lot of research in the field of evolutionary psychology that’s gone into this fascinating (but admittedly politically incorrect) view of racism. Satoshi Kanazawa and Alan Miller have written a great book that details the reasons for racism and other charged questions in “Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters”.

I also thought it was funny that the author recommended learning the idea of filial piety in East Asian culture. As someone with Korean and Japanese heritage who’s married to a Chinese wife, I can tell you that some of the most vitriolic statements regarding race I’ve ever heard were in our native languages with friends and relatives who hail from the referenced countries.

If anything, American culture teaches us (at least ostensibly) not to be racist… or at least not to show it off as blatantly as Alexandra Wallace did. If I agree with one thing in the post, it’s that she’s going to have a hard time finding a job after this.

Squirrelers
13 years ago

This nonsense happens all the time, and it’s highly unfortunate. Frankly, there are examples way worse than this one.

One such example is a passenger who was middle eastern in ethnic descent and dress that was removed from a Southwest flight for “suspicious ” behavior. All she did was speak on the phone, but a flight attendant deemed her suspicious and they removed her. Tons of people applauded this, despite her being a US citizen and totally innocent. The action and general applause the airline got for that is totally racist. Thing is, many ate just blind to it and either don’t see their own racism or make excuses (ie all people of a certain background can’t be trusted, better safe than sorry, etc).

In some ways we’ve come a long way, but we have a long way to go still. I’m all for maintaining American customs and ways here, as its our country. Some assimilation should rightfully be expected. But we shouldn’t expect people to change overnight and should show basic respect to all without generalizations.

Buck Inspire
13 years ago

Way to bring awareness to an ugly subject. This is a great example of thinking before doing. She’s insecure, wanted some attention, and now she will go down in history for this. Too bad her friends and family didn’t reel her back in. Hopefully we can all grow from this event. I wonder if she makes a new video apologizing for her mistake, would people forgive her? Will be interesting to see how she deals with this backlash.

Mike Hunt
Mike Hunt
13 years ago

An interesting article researching the evolutionary roots of prejudice

https://www.physorg.com/news/2011-03-human-prejudice-ancient-evolutionary-roots.html

Sunil from The Extra Money Blog
Sunil from The Extra Money Blog
13 years ago

quickest and easiest way to game

Sunil from The Extra Money Blog
Sunil from The Extra Money Blog
13 years ago

sorry i meant “fame” !!!

Sunil from The Extra Money Blog
Sunil from The Extra Money Blog
13 years ago

Snooki 2.0

retirebyforty
13 years ago

Her biggest mistake was to post the video on youtube. Come on, I thought these young’uns are suppose to be more social media savvy.
The tsunami comment was not cool. How would she like it if she has to deal with similar situation. The ching chong wasn’t that bad, Rush Limbaugh’s was a lot worse.

Everyday Tips
13 years ago

You know, some people are raised to be ‘racist’. I grew up in a very racist area. However, as I grew older, I formed my own ideas and opinions. You can’t just blame your upbringing because you do have your own mind. This girl is in college for goodness sake, where she should be exposed to all types of experiences. That is when you can shed any preconceived notions you may have been raised with.

This girl is a fool.

Kevin @ Thousandaire.com

I hadn’t watched this video until now because I didn’t want to hear a bunch of racist comments. Then I finally watched it and really can’t see the big deal.

Racism is judging a group of people by their appearance; this girl was judging people by their actions.

Yes, saying “Ching chong…etc” demonstrated that she doesn’t know any words of any Asian language and was a bit rude, but people are blowing it out of proportion. I can’t imagine being offended as an English-speaking American if someone from another language was trying to imitate a white American and made nonsensical noises that were meant to sound like English words. It displays their ignorance of my language, but doesn’t mean they are racist against me.

She even said at the end, “Even if you’re not Asian, you shouldn’t be talking on the phone in the library… I’ve just never seen that happen before.”

That’s a judgment of a behavior, and then a statement saying that she’s never seen a different race carry out that action.

Imagine if the rude people weren’t Asian, but were jocks or cheerleaders or computer nerds or frat boys or any different group of people that wasn’t a racial association. Pretend they were jocks; she would have done the same video but changed “Ching chong ling long” for “Let’s go play some football and hit on cheerleaders”. I don’t think anyone would have found that very offensive. She’s not racist; she’s pissed off at rude people in the library.

Bob
Bob
13 years ago

“Even if you’re not Asian, you shouldn’t be talking on the phone in the library… I’ve just never seen that happen before.”

Well…you know…that’s because libraries are part of our domain (Indians’ too, but they’re also technically Asian). Gosh…I’m surprised she was there in the first place to make such an observation. Must’ve taken a wrong turn somewhere…

Kevin @ Thousandaire.com
Reply to  Bob

As far as I’m concerned, your comment is more racist than her video. You are making a generalization that white people don’t use the library. You have formed an opinion on an entire race of people, whereas her anger was directed specifically against actual people who just happened to be Asian.

I’m not offended by your comment but I do find it to be racist. I have seen libraries with many more Asians and Indians than white people, but I wouldn’t look at a random white person and make a judgment about whether I think he does or doesn’t go to the library based only upon his skin color.

Bob
Bob
13 years ago

See…that’s what I love about my previous comments. They can be construed as racist remarks, yet they’re logical progressions of a basis upon which a person could argue why Alexandra’s remarks were not racist.

“Even if you’re not Asian, you shouldn’t be talking on the phone in the library… I’ve just never seen that happen before.”

Let you and I pretend that neither of us are racist. We will make the assumption that a certain percentage of students, regardless of racial background, will be impolite and take long, loud calls in the library. If we trust that Alexandra is perfectly on the level and that she’s only observed Asians taking calls in the library, we recongnize that this is an improbable event if 1) the library has a proportional mix of Asians relative to the the general student body and 2) Alexandra has observed a moderate number of phone calls. This improbability becomes more probable when A) the ratio of Asians to non-Asians in the library rises above 37:63, B) Alexandra has spent a limited amount of time in the library, limiting her to the number of calls she has observed, or C) some combination of A and B. If one takes Alexandra’s comment about never having seen a non-Asian talk on their cell phone in the library seriously, the scenarios I laid out are not unreasonable.

Nico
Nico
12 years ago

A comment that might have completely jokingly implied that the libraries belong to Asians is now worse racism than anything Alexandra Wallace spewed. You’re fucking joking right?

youngandthrifty
13 years ago

Wow, interesting discussion.

I loved Jimmy’s video, that song was stuck in my head for an entire day. It was a very articulate and appropriate response to some pretty harsh words Alexandra Wallace said.

I think the most harsh part of it was that she posted this on such a public medium, like You Tube. What was she thinking? Did she think people would applaud her and say “ooh you’re so right, Alexandra! They’re so annoying, I agree!” I have no idea what was going through her mind when she uploaded that video. Maybe she was too busy thinking about how her cleavage looked wearing that shirt.

Kyle
Kyle
13 years ago

I thought the whole reaction to this video was incredibly overblown. Making death threats over a youtube video? Come on, people. I also wouldn’t classify her comments as “hateful” by any stretch of the imagination. Move along everybody, nothing to see here.

Patrick
Patrick
13 years ago

As much as I wish there was no racism in America as long as there are groups like NAACP and people like Rev Jesse Jackson racism will never die.

Sandy @ yesiamcheap
Sandy @ yesiamcheap
13 years ago
Reply to  Patrick

I guess you see them as a cause of racism and not a result of it? I’m not American, but I know enough history to suggest you take a second look back not that long. Say, 50-60 years or so?

Patrick
Patrick
13 years ago

Like a good deal of groups in America they may have been formed for good cause in the beginning, but they have most definitely outlived there usefulness. I am a student of history, and I truly feel bad about anyone who was subject to abuse, racism and segregation 50-60 years ago. However; it is 2011, no one under the age of 40 has dealt with those issues and groups such as the NAACP and people like Jesse Jackson make trouble and refuse to let real change occur.

No one alive in America today was ever a slave, or ever owned a slave, it is time we get on with the issues of the day. I had the privilege of serving in the US Army with individuals from every ethnic background and I have friends today who are stationed all over the world. The successful Soldiers get ahead due to hard work, perseverance and following the Army Values. They don’t need a special group going in front of Congress or the American people trying to make people feel guilty for actions conducted decades ago.

As far as this video, it is quite evident that this girl lacks a real world education but it is also evident that she is a product of her environment. If she had been raised properly and taught life skills in school, such as how to approach someone in a public place and politely ask them to stop their inappropriate behavior, then she wouldn’t have resorted to ranting on Youtube. Of course, this is the same country where one football star goes to prison for killing dogs while another football player gets his drivers license suspended for killing a person while intoxicated. I cannot answer for every injustice, no one can, but it is each person’s responsibility to make their society and community better, something this young lady has failed at miserably.

Sandy @ yesiamcheap
Sandy @ yesiamcheap
13 years ago
Reply to  Patrick

My first comment attests to the fact that I wasn’t offended by her video in a “racist” way. I just thought that she was stupid for posting the video on the internet. I go on rants myself, but I am never so dumb as to post a video of myself on a rant.

With regards to your comment “it is 2011, no one under the age of 40 has dealt with those issues” I sincerely beg to differ. While no one alive has been a slave, racism takes form in different ways.

My comment above regarding the NAACP was only regarding their formation. Whether they have outlived their usefulness is a different matter entirely and deserves to be debated, but this might not be the correct forum. We would also need to call into question the need for other groups including the ACLU, NOW (National Organization for Women), the ADL (Anti Defamation League), etc., etc., and a host of other groups that have been formed to represent one particular group of people with similar agendas.

Mike Hunt
Mike Hunt
13 years ago

Here is an example of the different type of ‘racism’ or stereotyping that goes on in this part Asia, along with the associated debate:

An advertisement for a skin whitening drink was listed above some seats on the skytrain that read “These seats are for white people only”. This is for Thai white skinned people…

JoeTaxpayer
JoeTaxpayer
13 years ago

I think the lesson here is what Jimmy did in his video, point out how foolish racists really are, and mock just the way he did.
Was she racist? Sure. But I suppose there’s worse, people who physically harm others and talk far worse trash. Sad for her if this kills any chance of employment. On the other hand, I wish Jimmy a great future.

Pat S.
Pat S.
13 years ago

Yikes. I’d have to say misdirected anger. Maybe self deprecation on some level. Upbringing. A need for attention. A lack of consideration for the future… bad call either way, and sad.